Red Flags Need NOT Apply

I'd like to share on red flags... 1. RESPECT/SELF RESPECT: Any sub willing to show a Dom/me respect or proper communication ettiquite that goes above and beyond either playful banter or general respect for fellow man might have some self worth issues. I wont submit to ANY Dominant personality. While I am particularly attracted to arrogant dominant men, I need to be shown that there's merrit to his arrogance, and sufficient basis for me allowing his dominance over me. This is because I value myself. 2. IDENTITY: The submitting of will and thereby submission of responsibiity should not be because of lack of ability to have a will or lack of ability to be responsible! Where's the submission in that? Make sure a sub has personal identity. 3. EMOTIONAL STABILITY: This is hard to prove. The best advice is ask questions. It becomes clear with time how stable someone is by their answers. Is there always drama? If so, are they complaining about things, not venting or informing but complaining, or more specifically, do they have victim mentality? Or is it venting because they are just in a bad spot? If they are in a bad spot are they looking to be rescued? Or are they looking for self sufficientcy? Do they confront and accept and move on at appropriate times? 4. INTELLIGENCE: Stupid is as stupid does... 'Nuff said. WARNING: Do not confuse intelligence and/or economic success with emotional stability. My IQ is very high, and at the highest point of my emotional instability, my paycheck and prestige was also high. One does not equal the other. 5. ECONOMICS: Seriously, in this economy, don't hold job status or level of economic success over someone's head, that's shallow. All you need to know is are they asking for handouts. If they are, they are asking you to submit to their needs/wants, they are not submitting to you. 6. GOALS: Find out why they want to be a sub, what they want to gain from it, etc. etc. etc. Here might clue you in on ALL of the above comments. Which brings me to the last - 7. YOU: Are they asking about you? Do they have curiosity toward you? Do they care why you want to do the things you want to do? Do they want to know more about you then sex? If you want a sub who is submitting to YOU then find a sub who wants to know who YOU REALLY ARE? Why would you settle for less? If they don't want to know you they are only reliving out a past situation, be it a situation of abuse or pleasure, and you are their tool - again you are the one submitting to them if this is the case.